Friday Five: Things on My Mind

1.Music. I’ve been listening to Lizzo for a while now on Spotify. Do you know her? You might have heard her song Juice or Truth Hurts. Whether you have or haven’t heard her yet, you may be interested in seeing her show at NPR’s Tiny Desk concert series. Doesn’t her music just make you want to move?

When you’re done moving, and you need to relax, listen to this playlist of relaxing songs. Apparently research has shown that listening to the song Weightless by Marconi Union “resulted in a striking 65 percent reduction in participants’ overall anxiety, and a 35 percent reduction in their usual physiological resting rates.”

2. Books. I listened to Jordan Peterson’s 12 Rules of Life audiobook over the last couple of weeks. Jordan Peterson is a controversial academic who has risen to celebrity status in the last few years. I have followed his work on and off for several years, and I have kind of sat on the fence regarding my alignment with his ideas. The book, however, was an interesting and informative read. I learned a lot. The section on listening and thinking critically caught my attention and made me think not only about my social interactions but also my work environment. I thought about my own listening skills and what and how I teach at the university.

I also listened to David Sedaris’s Calypso, and I really enjoyed it. I laughed out loud all the way through! And I loved the chapter “Your English is So Good” where Sedaris reflects on curious words and phrases in languages such as Japanese and English. In English, for example, he comments on the word “awesome” and the concept of “upselling” in America. He also comments on the “concern for hydration” and why we carry bottled water everywhere we go. I laughed so much! I listened to this chapter twice!

3. Movies. As you may recall, I have an ongoing list of things to do/see/read/watch from my friends and family as part of my 40th year challenge. One of the movies that was on the list was Goodfellas, so I watched it last week. Oh my goodness – why had I never seen this? I loved it. I liked the character development, the dialogue, the cinematography, and the clothing (hellos 70s and 80s). Have you seen it?

4. Instagram. I’m thinking of taking a complete break from Instagram. I lose track of time when I’m aimlessly scrolling through posts. Recently, I watched a time-lapse video of a blogger/influencer/instagrammer making breakfast and then packing it up for the freezer. Why? Why did I watch it? I didn’t learn anything. I wasn’t entertained. What do you think? Should I give it up for a while? Do you still like it? Are you inspired?

5. Relaxing. I have been making more of an effort to relax (see point 1 about relaxing music). We all know I like to stay busy, but I think I need a touch of downtime in my life, so I stay happy and healthy. Last weekend, I shut off all notifications on my phone (and I have since kept them off), and, to my surprise, it didn’t take long to get comfortable with the lack of constantly-checking-of-the-phone. I’ve also gone through the free 10-day basic meditation series via the HeadSpace app, which seems to calm me down at the end of busy days. Just yesterday, I read this post by Julie Zhou over at Wit & Whimsy about solo rituals, and I love the idea. Zhou’s final comment sums up the solo ritual: “Which is all to say—there’s no one perfect solo ritual! The only rule is this. That for at least a single hour, once a week (ideally), you are not working, not useful, are exuberantly, wildly, radically unproductive. Everything else is, as they say, your party.” Do you have a solo ritual?

Have a wonderful weekend, everyone!

Two for Tuesday: Shade

So there I was at work helping out a graduate student with her writing, and while I was talking to her about representing scholars’ ideas accurately and with purpose in her own writing, she says something about not wanting to “throw shade” on these scholars. According to Urban Dictionary, throwing shade means “acting in a casual or disrespectful manner towards someone/dissing a friend.” I had heard the phrase before, but I must have had a puzzled look on my face because she quickly rephrased her comment to say something along the lines of – you’ve got to represent the work fairly and respect the author’s ideas.

Although this was a really quick dialogue, I have been thinking about it quite a bit. I’m in the business of language learning and teaching. I have a PhD in applied linguistics, so I have studied extensively in the area. I analyze language and people’s use of language constantly. This particular interaction had me thinking about language registers (level of formality we use in different contexts), how we use multiple registers in our daily interactions, and how we can quickly adjust our tone based on circumstance. The student I worked with had opted to use slang with me (I had only met her once before), but quickly realized another explanation may be more suitable for the context of our interaction. I thought about how this student applied a slang explanation to explain an academic writing concern. Language – and how we use it – is fascinating!

If you’re not as interested in the intricacies of language as I am, you may like this other version of the word “shade”. These white shades are from one of my favourite eyeglasses companies.

Scène, $14.99 Euros (on sale), Polette


Celebration: My Birthday!

Well, the day is here! It’s a big one, and I’m looking forward to celebrating with family and friends all (long) weekend. I’m so very grateful for everyone’s love. As I head into this new year (and new decade), I can’t help but reflect a bit on life.

I’ve enjoyed an incredible, adventurous, and curious life so far, so I thank my parents for all that they’ve done to encourage me and to ensure I’ve had fun experiences along the way (with a side of strict discipline). They instilled a love of travel and learning, for which I’m forever grateful. I’m also determined, responsible, hard-working, confident, and loyal because of the lessons I learned from them.

My sister and brother-in-law have been great guides along the way, too. Sure, my sister may yell at me when I’m being ridiculous, but both her and her husband have provided me with so much valuable advice about work, education, opportunities, relationships, and more. I’m sure one of the highlights for them had to be when I set up a Tinder profile (when it was first launched!) sitting around their dining room table in Manhattan. Let’s just say that I didn’t have much control over my swiping that night. My highlights of our time together, on the other hand, has been the birth and growth of my three nephews and niece. These kids are the cutest and provide us all with much entertainment! Since I don’t see them in person often, I appreciate our FaceTime chats.

I am lucky to have developed friendships with so many great people in all the cities I’ve lived in and traveled to. My friends have welcomed me into their homes and made me feel like family. Going on a family trip with a bestie or being called an “honorary cousin” means so much to me. When I’ve been far away from my own family, my friends have made me feel right at home. I am indeed grateful.

My cousin has had the following quote in her email signature for years, and it’s the quote that has been by my side as I think about this next year and decade.

“We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.” – George Bernard Shaw

This quote is a nice reminder to celebrate happy days, make room for fun, not stress the small stuff, and be grateful for what life holds. And with that, I’ll leave you today with this collection of fun vintage photographs. I hope they make you smile.

Underwood Archives via Buzzfeed
Head View by William Vanderson via Fine Art America
Hula Hooping in South Melbourne, 1957 via Imgur
Sausage Snatchers – Getty Images
Boys’ band, Montmartre, Paris, by Bruno de Hogues
Complete uplift: Rose Finn-Kelcey handstand on the beach via The Guardian
On The Caterpillar, Women’s Pub Outing, Clapham, London, 1958 via ArtFido

Have a wonderful weekend!

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